Hajja Salesjana

She’s looking at me, but it’s like she’s looking past me. I know he cares and I objectively know he loves me more than anything, but he’s so checked out. I just want to shake him sometimes like, wake up! If you see someone, let them know you see them.   Slow down, and though it feels strange to write because it’s so simple: take a second to actually look at another person.   Just one extra second.  Literally. And on the topic of literally, certainly if you love someone, show some love! Literally. Let the love you feel show on your face, in your eyes and in your quality of presence.   Slowing down and taking the one extra second is how you connect.   It’s this incredibly simple part of the human experience that’s getting lost in the modern rush.  Taking the one extra second is the kind of quality that shapes your mood for the better after a bad news day (or bad news week, or bad news year), it’s the secret to the people we find so charming, it’s what the best leaders do -- helping people feel seen and valued will totally shift your life.   We can all get by without connection, at least for a little while, but if we really want to thrive, we have to connect to each other. Connection is not based on how much time we spend with someone or what we do with them, connection is always based on quality of presence.  This is why we fall in love with people who make us feel alive, because on some level, we’re all desperate to be more present. Being present  doesn’t require meditation, deep breaths, or anything like that. It’s just a one second decision, “Ok, I’m gonna be present now.”  It’s not a decision you make in the morning and then never have to think about again, it’s a decision you make over and over and over again throughout the day. Ooops, wandered away from the present moment? No probs. The return flight is one second long. The four questions are impossible for you to answer unless you’re present. If you’re at all interested in experimenting with the idea that people are always asking Photo by Alexis Brown - Unsplash.com Photo by Priscilla du Preez - Unsplash.com 30 Ottubru-Diċembru 2023 hajja